Where Do Couples Have Sex? Mostly the Bedroom

Where do couples have sex? The bedroom, most of the time, and it is not a close race. It came up 46849 times, more than every other place put together.

If you are asking because it is nearly always the bedroom for you, and you wonder whether that makes you dull, the numbers say it makes you typical. The first place that comes to mind is the place that keeps happening, far ahead of every other room in the house.

So where do couples have sex most often?

The bedroom is the most common place by a wide margin. After it come the living room, the shower, the restroom, a general Home option, the hotel, and the kitchen. Combine the shower and restroom and the bathroom edges past the living room. Everywhere else is rare.

These numbers show where. They say nothing whatsoever about why. So everything below that sounds like an explanation is us guessing, and we will say so each time.

The living room takes second place, just about

Of the individual rooms, the living room comes second.

The numbers do not say why. It does have a couch in it, and it is the room people are already sitting in. That is a guess and not a finding.

Put the two bathroom options together

Shower and restroom sit third and fourth on their own. Add them up and the bathroom moves past the living room into second place overall, by a small margin.

Our best guess involves a door that locks. That is as far as this takes us, which is not very far.

Home apparently means anywhere in the house

There is an option called Home, and it lands in the top five.

The bedroom is home too, and so are the living room, the kitchen and the shower. Whatever Home means to the people choosing it, it is not a room.

Our reading, and it is only a reading, is that people pick it when the answer is "around the house, somewhere" and the exact room is nobody's business.

The hotel is the only away option that keeps up

Every other place outside the home drops off fast. The hotel does not.

It sits right alongside the indoor rooms. Why it holds up, the numbers cannot say.

Everything else is rare

The car, the garage, the backyard, the pool, the beach, the plane, the train, and the museum all turn up. Every one of them is rare. Not zero, but nowhere near the rooms above.

Enough people write in a place of their own that the write-in option lands ahead of the car. What those places are, we could not tell you. They are counted together and never listed separately.

What we can and cannot tell you

We can give you the ranking. We cannot give you the reasons, and it would be easy to pretend otherwise.

If you want a theory, here is ours, offered with no evidence at all. The places that win are the ones that need no planning.

No place on this list is a target. A couple who never leaves the bedroom is not missing anything. A couple who rarely uses it is not doing anything wrong either. These numbers describe a crowd, not a standard for any one couple.

What the list is good for is a plain starting point. If one of you has wanted a change and not said so, "it has been the bedroom every time since spring" is easier to say than "we are in a rut". It is a fact about a calendar, and it blames nobody. The app lists your own most common places, so that fact is there when you want it.

If the rhythm interests you more than the map, we also looked at how often couples have sex and how long sex lasts.